Written by Aaron Ainbinder. Bio on Editorial Team.
Our golden years are meant to be filled with adventure and passion. As a senior, love can be a tricky thing to put your finger on. After all, we've spent nearly a life time of trying find love and develop it.
Love is the active concern for another's well-being. Love is a verb. It requires action. Love, the noun, is a byproduct of Love, the verb. Below are five signs that may show that you are still in love in your golden years. Or maybe they will strike a chord in your heart and inspire you to action.
Yielding to the desires of the one we love comes easy when the love is mutual. Surrendering to the wishes of the one we love is easy when the love runs freely on the two-way street of active concern for the other's well-being. That the well-being and happiness of the one we love remains high on our list of personal values is a sure sign of still being in love in our golden years. It is a sign that you have not allowed love to grow stale, perfunctory, and predictably missing.
Perhaps the Lady of the House wants to watch the International Rose-Growing Competition on television. But that broadcast coincides with a college basketball game which her sweetheart has been looking forward to watching. I will not offer my opinion as to which partner might subjugate their desires for the other's pleasure. Perhaps both will yield to the other, and they wind up watching reruns of Lassie Come Home! Such love… such love… such sweetening of the pot of peace and love in the home. Neither cares what is on the boob-tube, as long as they are sitting together holding hands while Lassie once again rescues Timmy from some dangerous situation.
Still in love in your Golden Years? A sure sign that you are still in love with your beloved is when you choose to slow down in meaningful ways and at significant times. If any of the below rings true for you, the odds are in your favor that love, the noun, is plentiful in your life.
Soft Shoulder road signs let us know that drifting off the highway will likely cause us harm. Being gentle and compassionate with your loved one will likely bring great pleasure to both partners.
During moments when you are most tired and prone to be irritated, do you still honor your relationship's peace and sacredness? DO NOT DISTURB the peace and love of your home. If you have to fight, fight naked. As soon as you and your partner begin to squabble about some issue or another, stop, and both of you take off your clothes right then and there. No touching allowed. When you are both standing naked as the day you were born, your dispute may continue. The upset will turn into chuckling, giggling, and laughter at how silly it was that you were arguing about whatever matter was of so much importance a scant few minutes ago.
Let us take nothing for granted, fellow seniors, least of all love. Better still, let us not take being in love for granted. Let nothing disturb the peace of your home and the peace of your love's life. Remember that Love is a verb. It requires action. Do not ever take it for granted.
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